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Conversion Therapy: Six Points Worth Considering

First, ‘conversion therapy’ is the current lightning rod of contempt for anyone who refuses LGBT+ identity and destiny. And anyone who supports that decision: friends and family, churches, therapists. While celebrating every person’s right to change partners or genders, our culture demonizes those who choose to align their bodies with their obvious purpose of generating new life.

Nowhere is this more apparent than in the entertainment industry. 2018 began with ‘Miseducation of Cameron Post’ and ends with ‘Boy Erased’, a small film with big stars about a young man who following his rape by a college friend attends a 12-day ‘conversion therapy’ camp where he is subject to a prison-like house of horrors marked by manipulation of every kind. The credo is coercion: Christians imposing nightmarish tactics upon otherwise well-adjusted persons with same-sex attraction who become self-hateful. The cure? A jail-break! (In this case, with the help of Mama Nicole Kidman, for whom I would gladly flee the big house.)

Nicole aside, the vibe is everywhere. I just read a detailed article entitled ’Taught to Hate Myself’ that lists drug-induced aversion therapy, electro-shock treatments and use of heterosexual porn as ‘conversion’ tricks in curing gays, resulting in failed ‘straight’ marriages, suicide, and overall wrecked lives. Surprisingly, no professional counselors are named. You know why? No therapist worth his or her salt would engage in any of these trumped up shenanigans. ‘Conversion’ therapists do not exist. And if any facsimile of the ‘conversion camp’ of ‘Boy Erased’ ever existed, we can be grateful it does no more.

Second, the term ‘conversion’ therapy never existed in any professional sense of the word. Since the beginning of psychotherapy, clinicians have understood same-sex attraction to be a ‘reparative’ drive—not the defining characteristic of one’s sexual adulthood but a symptom of something else, an unconscious effort to repair some deficit or breach. From this understanding, skilled helpers help persons ‘to read’ their sexual desires properly; that involves helping clients to recognize legitimate needs at the heart of same-sex attraction, and to face painful relationships and traumas that may have contributed to the attraction. Here therapists function as healers of actual wounds that have divided lives and made persons more vulnerable to LGBT+ self-perceptions and behaviors, as in the case of childhood sexual abuse.

My journey to wholeness was laid by Jesus. But along the way, skilled helpers helped me sort out my desires along the narrow road to life, neither condemning me for them nor limiting me to their demands. They helped me to walk through same-sex attraction, face squarely some factors that contributed to it, and grow in self-acceptance.

Third, Living Waters, Courage, and all the ministries I know in the Restored Hope Network do not practice this form of therapy. How do I know that? We are not therapists! We are lay persons who come alongside anyone who—in light of identity conflicts and sexual addictions–wants to grow in the love of Jesus Christ. We meet in groups, which are voluntary, coercion-free, and aimed at centering one’s affections and identity upon Jesus Christ. ‘Therapy’ is a meaningful term and practice that should only apply to persons who have the skill to forge a long term, in-depth relationship with a person who wants professional help for the purpose of clearing out debris from his or her path to wholeness.

Fourth, we need these therapists! Persons with gender identity problems are vulnerable, not only to conflictual sexual desires but to mental health issues like chemical addiction, personality disorders, depression, and suicidal tendencies. We lay persons must recognize our limits in the face of another’s fragility. We must learn to refer our people to skilled helpers who can help individuals navigate a range of issues, including constructive ways of facing same-sex attraction beyond merely branding them LGBT+.

Fifth, I suggest that we work with new language. I’m fine with reparative therapy, but it is now guilty by its bizarre ‘conversion’ association. How about ‘integration’ therapy, which references the goal of becoming whole, united with the good of our own gender selves by overcoming divides that bar us from chaste relating with either gender?

Sixth, the battle is raging to demonize and do away with therapeutic help for persons refusing the LGBT+ destiny. Christians around our country are drinking the cool-aid; refusing to believe there is any psychological ‘stuff’ to gender disorders, they are joining the tirade against providing such help. That was evident in our recent, temporary win against 2943 in California. Although the bill was shelved, many Christians, including the saints at Rosemead, Biola University’s clinical counseling arm, went on record (see website) to refute therapeutic ‘change’ efforts as a kind of olive branch to the LGBT+ community. This will come back to bite us. Gay activist and author of 2943, Evan Low, has announced his plan to reframe the bill in 2019 and to outlaw all such therapeutic efforts. The fight goes on, and we must wage it without throwing our clinical allies under the bus.

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Fighting for Fruitfulness: Seven Truths for this Generation

While waiting in line at the market, I observed two young Latina women in matching jean jackets emblazoned with rainbows and crosses. They could barely keep their hands off each other and gave into a long messy kiss just outside the store. Shame? Intolerance? No signs of it. Fellow shoppers smiled and walked by as if pleased with this celebration of young ‘gay’ love.

Truth 1: The majority of young adults consider LGBT+ persons victims of injustice rather than violators of chastity. So morality has to do with justice–fighting for the civil rights of sexual minorities, not repentance from sexual sin.

Truth 2: These young adults are wrong. They came of age in an era that deifies every desire and champions each person’s right to create his or her own sexual universe. That is idolatry, and places a young person in grave spiritual danger. According to Scripture, these ones ‘worship and serve the creature over the Creator’ (Rom. 1:25); according to the Catechism, homosexual acts are depraved and disordered because ‘they close the sexual act to the gift of life, and do not proceed from a genuine emotional and sexual complementarity’ (#2357).

Truth 3: LGBT+ liberties emerge as the bitter fruit of the mess we made of male and female relationships in the twentieth century. Who knows anyone who seriously recognizes children as the main reason for sexual love between a man and woman? We have ‘contracepted’ ourselves to death while fueling ‘normal’ desire with lust, narcissism, misogyny, misandry, and abuses of all kinds. For some, same-gender love seems a consoling option amid a landmine of male-female hostility that hardly resembles ‘genuine complementarity.’

Truth 4: Though it is helpful to understand why some are more vulnerable than others to LGBT+ reality, we each must answer to God as to what we did with our bodies, including our wounded emotions and skewed sexual desires. That’s among the main reasons Living Waters exists: to help all persons—single or married, Catholic or Protestant, disordered ‘gays’ or ‘straights’—to prepare to say to Jesus: ‘With this one body I have bowed down before one God and one alone.’

Truth 5: The majority of historic Protestant denominations are now idolatrous in their understanding of homosexuality. After decades of ‘dialogue’ with the LGBT+ community, most have now pledged allegiance to the rainbow flag. And no longer uphold chastity as reasonable for young people. Every denomination that cedes to LGBT+ liberties (‘gay’ ordination and unions) initiates a slow suicide. They lose members until there are no more. God does not bless the Church that tolerates sexual immorality Remember Thyratira? (Rev. 2: 20-23.)

Truth 6: Catholic bishops from around the world are gathering throughout October to create an authoritative document on how the Church shall deal with young adults. As mentioned before, LGBT+ matters are included in this working document which if approved by Pope Francis will become binding for the Church-at-large. Fr James Martin has his fingerprints all over it, including the call to endless dialogue with the LGBT+ community—‘the listening Church’…who must opt ‘for dialogue as her method and style.’ Hear me: I have endured three decades of ‘dialogue’ about LGBT+ matters with all the major denominations. Its end is death.

Truth 7: The time is now for the Church to uphold her truth about chastity infused with Almighty mercy. We listen to sinners and we call them to join us in route to integration—Jesus’ goal for all His followers. That has never changed. Please join us in prayer for the next 40 days starting this Wednesday, Oct. 10th. We will pray to ‘become’ good news for our LGBT+ loved ones. And we shall lift up the Youth Synod, in the hope that wise bishops will uphold the Church’s exquisite moral teaching as good news for a generation that will perish without it. We should not be afraid or intimidated. Truth is at once generous and firm. Truth sets us free.

We’ll be starting our prayer/ fasting time on October 10th for anyone who wants to join. If you’d like to pray along with us, let us know and we can send you a book or you can get it through kindle here: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Good-News-Andrew-Comiskey-ebook/dp/B07F95JKP5!

 

 

 

 

 

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Burning Bridge

Jesuit priest James Martin—close friend of Pope Francis and the Vatican’s Secretariat for Communication—is bright and just and merciful.

He is also committed to normalizing LGBT realities in the Catholic Church.

Martin was chosen as the featured Catholic to address LGBT issues at the World Meeting of Families in Dublin last month and contributed to the Youth Synod document that Bishops from around the world will study together next month. That document employs LGBT language, a first for the Catholic Church.

Martin artfully wrote a book–‘Building a Bridge’ between the Church and LGBT community—in which he pretends to be within the lines of the Catechism by emphasizing ‘respect, compassion and sensitivity’, all duly noted in #2358 as attitudes that should guide our treatment of persons with same-sex attraction.

Martin quietly oversteps the bonds of orthodoxy by expanding #2358 to include the LGBT spectrum, which spawns fresh configurations constantly. Is Martin really advocating for the tendency of a generation to find social traction by creating new and varied gender selves? What used to be an inner struggle rooted in unfinished emotional business has now become a dance card for kids in search of ‘selves.’

Martin insists that respecting LGBT persons means embracing their ‘coming out’ and honoring their new names and (I presume) gender impersonations. It’s wacky. Here’s a brilliant guy who wants to reach a generation by celebrating their delusion. And employing Scripture to reinforce it. He emphasizes the importance of ‘naming’ and new names in which Abram becomes Abraham, God becomes ‘I Am’ to Moses, and Judy becomes Jimmy (pp. 115-8). Good Father Martin unites good with evil by using the Bible to reinforce self-created gender identities.

More seriously, Martin takes aim at the Catechism, especially its reference to ‘objectively disordered’ desire, applied both to same-sex tendencies (#2358) and behavior (#2357). He finds those words cruel and unusual for young people. He goes so far as to imply that such a harsh description may cause Jimmy ‘to destroy himself’ (p. 75). If ‘disorder’ provokes anyone to hate or self-hate, Martin has a point.

How much better to awaken to the fact that same-sex aspirations (or any along the LGBT continuum) are disordered because they ‘close the sexual act to the gift of life’ and do not ‘proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity’ (#2357)? Simply put: you cannot create your own gender self and be happy! The whole of the Catholic moral life? Human freedom=lining up with what the Creator wills for His creature.

In truth, a generation fueled by more disordered desire than ever before needs clarity. How good and right and true for the Church to marry its understanding of human freedom with empowered compassion, to accompany persons under the sway of deception into true human freedom.

Martin stops short of authentic compassion because he fails to reveal the One whose love opens the horizon. Jesus names us afresh as He invites us out of disorder into holy order. Martin resists that truth and settles for a worldly one—‘be LGBT just as you are and want to be’; his bridge burns the most vulnerable. Please pray for Catholics who become the bridge over which weak ones cross from disorder to true happiness.

We’ll be starting our prayer/ fasting time on October 10th for anyone who wants to join. If you’d like to pray along with us, let us know and we can send you a book or you can get it through kindle here: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Good-News-Andrew-Comiskey-ebook/dp/B07F95JKP5!

 

 

 

 

 

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AB 2943: Love Greater than Fear

California Assemblyman Evan Low’s decision to not send his bill for a final vote is a marvel of love, the love that casts out fear (1 JN 4:18).

Christians of all stripes came together gently, lovingly to uphold the truth of how we see reality: God made humanity in His image as male and female. We must be true to God our Creator and His will which frames LGBT+ reality as disorder; in the same breath, the faithful are true to our Redeemer who beholds all persons—including LGBT+ activists and politicians–with eyes of mercy and always invites the lonely into families where disordered ones can be loved into wholeness.

In every conversation and gathering, I had about 2943, Christians, especially the many pastors who took a stand, exhibited an unflinching heart of truth through the face of compassion. Down-to-earth, prayerful, and ethnically diverse saints endured with kindness the mockery of LGBT+ activists in order to ensure that their Christian consciences would not be outlawed by AB 2943. These are disciples who look out, not for themselves, but for the interests of Jesus Christ (Phil. 2: 21).

So Christians conveyed unchanging truth with deep compassion. That love overcame fear. Evan Low, a ‘gay’-identified politician, feared that these pastors were small-minded, autocratic moralists who wanted to close the horizon for LGBT+ persons. Courageous and just, he stood on trembling legs and listened to a number of these pastors who made a case for churches to have choice regarding sexual identification. Low heard them, and despite differing opinions, he realized that the Christian view was neither controlling nor manipulative. Freed from unfounded concerns, he concluded that AB 2943 was an inadequate bill.

Would you please pray for Evan Low in this season? He is under fire from his LGBT+ support base for withdrawing a bill that would have passed. He deserves our respect and our prayers.

Keep in mind that this marvel of love is not perfect. Low still wants to stop all clinical efforts to overcome gender identity issues, and I am concerned by the CA Christian leaders who threw their counseling friends under the bus by agreeing with Low on this point. Evan’s concerns will re-emerge in 2019 in another bill. We will be ready, conveying truth-in-love that casts out fear.

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‘Becoming Good News’ for Wandering Loved Ones

I am excited about a new booklet I just wrote–‘Becoming Good News’–a daily, 40-part prayer guide for those of us seeking to love persons mesmerized by the LGBT+ dragon. Jonathan Hunter prayerfully glimpsed this brute: a shimmering beast that entrances a generation with the promise of new identities and partnerships. Having lured them, the dragon then loses them with one swift flick of its tail. Our common enemy is merciless to those seduced by this multi-faceted mirror of deception. We are right to be concerned for loved ones.

Yet we are all creatures of free will. We cannot change anyone; still we try, and can be tempted to employ our faith to control and manipulate others. ‘Becoming Good News’ majors on the truth that another’s disorientation invites us to conversion. We discover in our helplessness and shame and fear that Jesus is actually calling us to Himself. Simply put, He employs another’s more obvious disorder to reveal our own.

That disorder may take on two forms, either becoming complicit or contemptuous of the dragon’s influence. The complicit are worldly in their thinking but do not know it. We believe that we are being merciful–non-judgey–to loved ones by altering our truth in order to accommodate their poor moral choices. Aren’t we just cowardly, afraid to see and feel the truth of our loved ones’ devolution? Out of unexpressed anxiety come silly statements like ‘my gay son is perfect’ or ‘my lesbian neighbors are the most Christ-like couple I know.’ Bleech. Me thinks we fawn too much. We are just dodging the truth that someone we care for is in danger and we do not know what to do. So we concede to the culture. And people-pleasing. We need conversion, not caving.

Another trap is contempt. Here we appear to have the right on our side: the truth of God’s will for human sexuality, etc. But our hearts are not right. Though we plead ‘righteous indignation,’ we are actually projecting our anxiety onto good people (however wounded and rebellious) and hating them for their bad choices. Instead of identifying the dragon, we take aim and fire at those under its sway. Easy to do. Sickened by media glamorization of identity confusion and adultery of all kinds, we conceive the temptation to hate the deceived. We are like the Pharisee (LK 18) who thanked God he wasn’t an adulterer. We must repent of religious pride that breeds contempt, and ask for mercy’s conversion.

Whether complicit or contemptuous, we need conversion. Jesus asks for our undivided devotion; He changes us so that our offer of transformation is matched by our becoming whole. That is the invitation of ‘Becoming Good News.’ You can request more info on this new book at BecomingGoodNews@desertstream.org. And you can calendar in Oct. 10th-Nov. 18th, 2018 for a prayer drive this fall, using this book. Let’s cry out together for loved ones under the dragon’s sway. May our repentance loose a stream of truth and mercy that will convert hearts, starting with our own.

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